A woman was left seething with her husband when he revealed what he had got her for Christmas one month before December 25, admitting that he knew it was ‘lame’
Sometimes on Christmas day you’ll be disappointed with a present one of your family members or friends has got for you – but you’ll be able to smile and thank them for it, and potentially re-gift it in the future if you can’t find a use for it.
However, when one woman found out what her husband had planned to get her for Christmas, she was left reeling, wondering why he couldn’t just fund a shopping trip for her. The 31-year-old woman said that her husband “cannot keep a secret to save his life”, and so he spilled the beans on what he was getting her for Christmas this year.
When he admitted that it was a “lame gift” but he couldn’t “think of anything else”, she was seething. She found out that he was going to have her car detailed, which is deep cleaning and light cosmetic paint restoration.
Taking to Reddit’s ‘Am I The A**hole’ forum, she wrote: ” I have mentioned before that it’d be nice if he could vacuum out my car for me – but I’ve never once talked about wanting it detailed. We have a two-year-old and a newborn – I don’t see the point in paying to have it detailed when it’ll just be messy again within a few weeks.
“When I agreed with him, he got super offended and said, ‘Well, I can’t think of anything else, and I already scheduled it’ and walked away. Part of me feels bad because I know I’m hard to shop for (but so is he, and I always make it work with something he actually enjoys), but Christmas is still almost a month away – plenty of time to think of something else.
“I really want to tell him to call and cancel the appointment because I’d honestly rather just take that money and go shopping for myself if he can’t figure out something else to get me.” She also shared that he hadn’t bothered to ask her what she wanted this year, so she hadn’t had an opportunity to drop any hints to him.
In the comments, someone wrote: “I am begging women to hold their male partners to higher account. Not knowing what to gift you means they aren’t listening to you or paying attention to your life, likes, hobbies, needs. And THEN expect more emotional labour to make them feel good about getting an impersonal, lazy gift?”
Another fumed: “He couldn’t wait until Christmas to tell you THAT? I’m so sorry. You are not the a**hole. First, he told you a month early, leaving nothing for you to be surprised with on Christmas. Secondly, he KNOWS it’s lame. And finally, he has an entire month to make it right. If you told him on Christmas morning that it was lame when it’s too late to do anything else, that would be a different story. Even though he didn’t ask, can’t you tell him what you want?”
